tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1656918276292872533.post5878814637183246616..comments2023-05-21T03:03:45.052-05:00Comments on Inappropriate Remarks: Dating, Stalking...What's the difference?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05850207517680847619noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1656918276292872533.post-11090541364852016172011-04-27T12:53:51.439-05:002011-04-27T12:53:51.439-05:00Due to a lot of past, terrible relationships, I re...Due to a lot of past, terrible relationships, I really had no idea how to tell if a guy was genuinely interested, or what a real relationship should be like.<br /><br />I had never had a guy actively pursue me, except if he wanted to get me in bed. Guys didn't date me because they really liked me. I don't know why they did, but I was ALWAYS dumped for the 'better model'. It was like I was a holdover girl.<br /><br />Which is the reason why, towards the end of college, I swore off dating. I finally realized that there was a good chance that while I wasn't the issue in the relationships, I clearly didn't know what to look for, and thus kept ending up in detrimental relationships.<br /><br />That, and I was desperate just to be loved.<br /><br />I took a 3 and a bit year hiatus from dating, and it was probably the smartest thing I ever did. I learned to exercise caution, to not settle and to not accept a guy who won't actively pursue me.<br /><br />That, and I learned that a relationship can't really function unless you're okay not being in one.<br /><br />The first guy I chose to date after this hiatus ended up being the most amazing guy I've ever dated. I went from a record of 3 weeks to now having been in a relationship for 9 months. For the most part, it's been a walk in the park as far as staying together. I haven't had to fight tooth and nail to convince him to stay with me. We haven't been without our issues (in fact we're going through our biggest one now), but the fact that we're willing to work through them has made all the difference. <br /><br />Anyways.. I think I forgot what my point was going to be... but yeah.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1656918276292872533.post-19263954879993884922011-04-21T10:27:54.461-05:002011-04-21T10:27:54.461-05:00Ah I love that you wrote about me! How flattering!...Ah I love that you wrote about me! How flattering! And yes, that about covers it. <br /><br />Also, I am in 100% agreement. In my experience, men, by nature, love a challenge. And if they feel challenged, they will go at it with everything they've got (hence a million phone calls, texts, emails, etc.) If you put up with their bullshit, i.e. them being lazy, non-committal, etc. they won't feel challenged-they'll feel like they've got you in the bag and then won't work for it. The moral of the story? Don't put up with their shit. It's amazing how holding back a little and taking care of yourself will lure in a man.<br /><br />Lol - Not that you, Bear, are looking to lure in a man :) But if you ever are...<br /><br />Thanks for the support!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1656918276292872533.post-21241699869698279162011-04-12T17:54:45.779-05:002011-04-12T17:54:45.779-05:00I used to be with hosers & liars...and lazy ba...I used to be with hosers & liars...and lazy bastards.<br /><br />Then I found love with my slightly less attractive, geeky, fountain of useless information, IT Guy friend. <br /><br />And I couldn't be happier. Well ok that's a bit of a fib....if we won that 50miln Lotto I would be happier but for now I'm doing all right with our oilsands moola. hahaCkretsGalorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05639299341765929305noreply@blogger.com